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A Dad’s speech at his Daughter’s wedding

This is one of the speeches that is close to my heart. And all fathers who have daughters will understand the feeling of every single word. I wished to read this today after a long time and remembered how precious are the girls to their fathers. When a girl enters into a family, she enters with lot of fears and anxiety. Try to handle her with love,  care and affection. Don’t be a male chauvinistic person. I  dedicate this to my father who treated me as his princess till I got married and my husband who treats me as his queen… He protects me when someone else yell at me and supports me when I am right. I also tell to all the people who shouts for no reason, if your hand is up now,  there comes a time when a girls hand rises. And you will reap for what you have done. So think before you do something and respect her. Respect her and in turn you ll get respect. My husband happily makes coffee when I feel tired and helps me in my household work if I am sick. I wish all the husbands to treat their wives with care. When you expect a girl to accept a man if he doesn’t know to ride a vehicle or abstain himself from doing his duties,  you also please accept when he does household work.  Don’t draw a margin and say it’s a girls duty.  And never ever have an idea that household work is meant for the ladies.  Come out of the age old stupid ideas like not allowing he youngsters to sit on single sofa. Respect women and try to be more practical rather than a formal,  strict officer.  If you respect a woman,  you will be worshipped as a God… And all men who have a daughter are blessed and knows the pain of a life than a boy’s dad.

Dad’s speech

I thought I would start my speech by addressing you as the “new” family of my daughter. But I think it would be inappropriate because now that she is married, you are “the family” for her. Believe me; I don’t have a problem with that. I, in fact, want my daughter to have “you” as her priority now. Its time for us to take a backseat in her life. We would happily accept it but would surely request one thing- please keep her happy!

I am more than sure that you will keep her very happy. She will perhaps be happier than what she used to be here. But like all fathers, I obsess over my daughter’s happiness which is making me say this over and over again- please keep her happy!

She never was and will never be a burden for me. She is in fact the reason why I breathe and smile. I am getting her married because this is what the law of nature demands. I am helpless in the face of our culture and therefore sending her to your home. She was the happiness of my home and will now light up your home. I am giving my world to you. Please make sure it remains beautiful. I am giving away my princess to you. Please make sure she stays as a queen. I have raised her with my sweat and blood and now she is wonderfully perfect. For all the care, love, beauty and warmth my daughter will bring into your lives, I just want her happiness in return—please keep her happy!

If at times you think that my daughter has said or done something wrong, feel free to scold her. But handle her with love. She is very fragile. If at times she feels low, be with her. She just needs a little bit of your attention. If at times she feels sick, show her some care. It’s the medicine that works best for her. If at times she fails to fulfill a responsibility, feel free to chastise her. But empathize with her. She is still learning. Do understand her—please keep her happy!

I don’t mind if I don’t get to see her for months. I don’t mind if I am not able to talk to her on a daily basis. I would be more than happy if she doesn’t remember me much. But, my only motive in life has been my daughter’s happiness which is now in your hands. I beg you, please keep her happy.

Dear son-in-law, these words may not mean much to you now but if you are lucky enough to father a daughter someday, you will appreciate them better when you will find every beat of your heart shouting – “please keep her happy”!

— Dedicated to all fathers

Vaikasi Visakam

Vaikāsi Visākam is important to the Saivites, Vaishnavites and the Buddhists. To the Saivites, it is the day of the descent of Murugan; to the Vaishnavites it is Periyalvar’s jayanti and to the Buddhists it is the day of the great miracles of nativity, enlightenment and maha samadhi of Buddha.

The descent of Murugan is referred to as the Shanmuga avatāram. This descent was in answer to a prayer by the devas to rid the world of adharma caused by the three asura brothers, Soorapadman, Singamuhan and Tārakan. These brothers had obtaind great powers through intense penance and were harassing the devas. The devas appealed to Siva for help. Tradition has it that Siva added a sixth face to the existing five faces and this incident is spoken of in the celebrated work of Saint Kumaraguruparar as:

Ainthu mukaththodatho mukamum thanthu
Tirumukangal ārāki.

Saint Tirumular in his Magnum Opus, the Tirumantiram, over two thousand years ago referred to this Divine incident as:

Āme pirān mukamainthodu māruya
Rāme pirānuk kathomukamārula.
 

From the forehead, Siva emitted six sparks of fire which enveloped the world with lustre. These sparks were carried by Vāyu and Agni to the Ganges which pushed them into Lake Saravana Poigai filled with lotuses and reeds. Philosophically the lotus represents the pure heart and the reeds represent the network of nerves in man’s physical body. Symbolically, the Divine Effulgence in the lake with its lotuses and reeds, are within each one. As Light and Life this Reality abides in the body, breath, senses, mind, intelligence and ego. These six facets of the human complex represents the six faces of Shanmugan.

In the Lake the sparks became six Divine children and were nursed by six Kārtika maidens popularly called as Karthigai Pengal. These children were embraced by the Divine Mother and became One with six faces and twelve hands. And thus descended Shanmugan, the incarnation of pure consciousness and divine knowledge on the pournima (paruvam) in the month of Vaikāsi.

Saint Kachchiappah Sivachariyar beautifully portrays the descent as, ‘With form and formlessness, without a beginning and as one and many, stood the column of Light, the Supreme Brahman, who with six merciful faces and twelve arms took the Divine Incarnation as Murukan for the redemption of the world,’

Aruvamum uruvumāki anāthiyāi palavāi onrāi
Brahmamāi ninra sothi pilambathor meniyākak
Karunaikoor mukangal ārum karangal pannirendu konde
Oru thiruMurukan vandhāngu udhiththanan ulakam uyya.
 

He then goes on to say, ‘That ever pure, Omnipresent Siva, who cannot be comprehended by speech or mind or even by the Vedas, assuming the form of six sweet babies, was gracefully seated on six lotus flowers in the Saravana Lake.’

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Murugan is worshipped and adored also as Subramanyan, Shanmugan, Kārthikeyan, Guhan Saravanapavan, Arumugan etc. As Murugan, He is the ever young and beautiful; as Subramanyan, He is the Su Brahmanya the All-pervading spirit of the Universe – the essence from which all things are evolved, by which they are sustained and into which they dissolve. He is the Omnipresent One, the Commander-in-Chief seated on a peacock with the Vel and is depicted at times with the Divine Consorts, Devayani and Valli. As Shanmugan, He descended to destroy adharma. As Kārttikeyan, He was nursed by the Kārtika maidens. As Guhan, He resides in the cavern of one’s heart. As Saravanabavan, He belonged to Lake Saravana poigai. As Arumugan, He has six faces.

Generally Murukan is spoken of as Ceyon one who is ruddy in colour. However, the Sri Tattvanidhi4 describes Murukan as dark blue in colour holding the Vel; sometimes He is depicted with the two consorts, Devayanai and Valli. Besides Him stands the peacock gripping a snake with its claws. The blue indicates infinity. To the human perception all infinite expanses for example the sky or ocean, appear blue. Murukan is the Infinite Reality existing in the cavern of the heart – the Guhan. This reality expresses Itself through the mind and together with the five sense organs, forms His six faces – Shan(six)-mukham.

The peacock is symbolic of vanity and pride. The serpent represents ego, the carnal personality of man which keeps wanting the mundane pleasures. The ego is created by avidya or ignorance and this must be kept in check and channeled to discover the Truth. The peacock holding the serpent within its claws conveys this Truth. And finally the Vel, is symbolic of the removal of the negative and evil tendencies which veil the true Divine Self. The Vel represents wisdom, Jnāna Sakti; His Consort Valli is the power of Will and is the personification of Divine Love, Ichchā Sakti; and Devayanai is the power of action and is the personification of deathlessness, Kriya Sakti. The three saktis help in eradicating the demon ego, represented in this episode as Soorapadman, the asura. Murukan appeared for a special purpose to eradicate the adharma caused by the asuras and the ensuing battle with the asuras is the story of the Skanda Shashti fast. The manifestation of Shanmugan is the everlasting testament of victory, of Truth over falsehood, of Dharma over adharma. And those who fight against adharmic forces within or around themselves, are said to be the ‘faithful warriors of Murukan’ and reflect his splendour – the Muruga amsam5

Thus it is seen that on this special day of Vaikāsi Visākam, the young and ever beautiful One came down for a specific purpose. But what is important is that this Divine Avatāram is continuously going on within man. Saint Arunagirinathar says that one should bear this in mind, draw strength and knowledge from this by meditating on the His sacred form for at least half a minute in order that he may be blessed with His grace.

Sarana kamalalayaththe arai nimisha neramettil
Tavamurai Dhyānam vaikka …

Vaikasi Visakam Poojai

Vaikasi Visakam is a ten-day festival in Lord Muruga Temples and special pujas and homas are performed during the period. A car festival, or pulling of chariots, is organized on the day.

In homes, Vaikasi Visakam is observed by performing special pujas to Lord Muruga.

Idols, portraits, paintings of Lord Muruga are thoroughly cleaned and decorated.

Usual puja procedures are followed. Sarkarai Pongal, a special neviedya, or prasad, is prepared on the day. People also visit a nearby Muruga Shrine and do pujas and offer prayers.

Prayers that are chanted on the day include Kanda Sashti Kavacham, Subrahmanya Bhujangam and Shanmukha Kavacham.

Some people opt for an elaborate Sahasranama Archana and conduct special pujas by inviting a priest.

 

Akshaya Trithiya

Akshaya haya trithiya falls on the third day of the lunar day in the tamil month of Chithirai(April 14th- May 15th). This day is considered as auspicious by the Hindus and Jains. The word Akshaya means “inexhaustible or everlasting”. Thrithiya means third day from the full moon day or new moon day. On this day people purchase gold, silver, rice, toor dhal, jaggery, salt. Initiations made on this day are considered to bring good luck and prosperity. Some famous examples
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*Sudama visited Lord Krishna on this day with a handful of rice.
*Ved Vyas along with Lord Ganesh started writing Mahabharat on this day.
*Vishnu’s 6th incarnation Parshuram was born on this day.
*Ganga descended on earth on this day.
*This day marks as the end of Satyug and the beginning of Tretayug.

A simple payasam is made on this day and offered to God.

May this auspicious day remove all ur sorrows & fill ur life with happiness, prosperity and health..

Have a blessed day.

This year Akshaya trithiyai is celebrated on 29th April..

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Chithirai kani/ Tamil Varusha Porappu/Tamil puththandu

Chithiraikani or Tamil varusha porappu is celebrated in the Indian state of Tamilnadu. It falls on the second week of April. This is considered as the beginning of new year by the Tamilians. The tamilians in all over the world celebrate this vigorously. Similarly the Malayalam speaking people will celebrate their new year as Vishu. Sometimes both  are celebrated on the same day.  14th April 2017 – 13th April 2018 is called as Hevilambi year.

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On the day before the new year, people place a mirror and decorate it with Konnai poo(yellow colour flower) that blooms during this season. In front of the mirror a brass thambalam(large size plate) is placed. Rice is spread over the plate and the fruits and vegetables are arranged. Three main fruits to be arranged are Mango, Banana, Jack fruit.  Golden cucumber,  grapes, orange,  apple, raw mango, snake gourd, lemon, coconut are also arranged.  Apart from this gold, silver, coins, rupees, panjangam, dhal, turmeric powder, kumkum, beetel leaves, paaku are also placed. On the side of this a lamp is lighted. This is called as Vishu kani.
On the next day morning, we are directed by the elders to go to the pooja room with the eyes closed.  This is practised because the first thing seen on the new year should give us happiness and prosperity for the whole year.  Kani is seen by touching the plate with both the hands.
The elders will give some money for the youngsters as their blessings and it is called as Vishu kaineettam.
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On this auspicious day, for the sadhya, along with the regular food, payasam, vadai and pachchadi is made.

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Tamil Puththandu Nal vaazhuthukkal !!!!

Menu for Chithirai kani and Vishu

Sambar / Mor kootan

Rasam

Mathan kootu

Paruppu vadai  or Mupparuppu vadai

Thayir Pachadi

Koorka-mezhukkuperatti

Chadha-chadhayam 

Thakkali thokku/ Manga kari / Maa-inji, Pachai kuru milagu

Nenthrakai vathal/chips

Curd

Appalam/Pappadam/Vadam

Panguni uthiram

Panguni Uthiram is one of the most important festivals for Hindus. It is also called as “Meena Uthira Palguni”. The important aspect of this day is that the Pournami and Uthiram start falls on the same day of Panguni month which is the last month of the Tamil Calendar year. According to the mythology, celestial weddings take place on this day and so Panguni Uthiram is known as the “Full Moon of Divine Marriages.

Important events happened on this day

  • Goddess Mahalakshmi came to life on Earth from the ocean of milk which was churned by the Devas and the Demons on either sides and thus this day is also celebrated as Mahalakshmi Jayanti. On the same day she got a place in LOrd Vishnu’s heart.
  • The day connotes the wedding of Goddess Parvati and Lord Shiva, Lord Rama and Sita, Lakshmanan and Oormila, Bharathan and Maandavi, Chathruknan and Sruthakeerthi.
  • Deivayaanai became the adopted daughter for Indiran on this day.Also she married Lord Muruga on this day.
  • Lord Brahma got the boon of having Goddess Saraswathi on his tongue.
  • Indhiran reunited with his wife Indirani on this day. Hence this day is also called as “Couple’s day”
  • Also Lord Ayyappa was born to Lord Shiva and Mohini avatar on this day.
  • According to Kandapuranam, there is a legend Manmadha Dhakanam. Manmadhan, the Lord of Kama disturbed the penance of Lord Shiva and the offended Lord Shiva destroyed the Lord of Kama into ashes. Rathi the wife of Kama Deva offered her prayers and request to bear the sins of her husband. Lord Shiva relented and reincarnated Manmadhan.

Panguni Uthiram is considered to be the right day to tackle all kinds of relationship problems and give an immeasurable boost when you join hands with your better half in life. Precisely, the joy of a loving and positive company is celebrated on the Divine Marriage Day, Panguni Uthiram. The divine combination of Uttaraphalguni starwith the Full Moon on Panguni (Tamil month) drives away sufferings and anxiety in nuptial life. By worshipping the Divine Couples on this day, we can connect with their energy to alleviate our relationship troubles.

Panguni Uthiram is the day to eliminate doshas in nuptial life. If the marriage was not conducted on auspicious time and if there are any doshas, then this is the day to alleviate them. The day gives you an opportunity to strengthen and improve your relationship. This day can actually dissolve all doshas and negative influences that cause disturbances in family life.

Festivals in Temples

The festival is celebrated over a ten day period in most of the Murugan Temples.’Mu’ stands for Mukunda (Vishnu), ‘Ru’ for Rudra (Shiva), and ‘Ka’ for Kamala (Brahma), therefore Muruga represents the three divine functions – creation, protection and destruction. People will assemble in thousands to witness car festivals at Palani. Men will observe a typical foot pilgrimage (pada yatra) to the temples of Lord Muruga and cover about one hundred kilometers over three to four days and nights. Some people vow to offer ‘Kavadi’ to Lord Muruga. They will bear Kavadi (two vessels connected and tied at the end of a long stick) on their shoulders and walk across the distance. Womenfolk will offer cool beverages like buttermilk or even food to devotees. At Mylapore, the ten day Panguni Festival will come to an end on this full moon day with the Thirukalyanam (celestial marriage). Ayyappa Jayanthi (the birth anniversary) of Lord Ayyappa will also be observed and celebrated in Ayyappa temples in Kerala and Tamil Nadu.

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Fasting

Panguni Uthiram is considered as one of the most important vrat/fast for Lord Muruga. Observing this fast with faith and dedication would remove the obstacles in marriage.

Rama Navami

Rama navami is considered as the birthday of Lord Rama. It falls  on the ninth day from Ugathi. Usually in Hindu culture ashtami( the eighth day from full moon day or no moon day) and Navami(ninth day from full moon day or no moon day) is considered as inauspicious days. People wont celebrate any function on these days. So Lord Vishnu said in one birth he will born on ashtami and in another birth he will born on navami. In this way we started celebrating gokulashtami(Birthday of Lord Krishnan) and Ramanavami(birthday of Lord Rama).During this day people make Neer mor or Sambaram, paanagam and kosumalli to offer it to Lord Rama. Moreover since this comes during Summer season, consuming Neer mor(Spicy buttermilk), Paanagam and kosumalli will cool one’s body and helps in hydrating. Here are the recipes for the occasion.

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Paanagam

Kosumalli

Sambaram

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